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72: How to have a good Valentine's Day while divorcing or going through a breakup

Valentine’s Day post separation and divorce can be a heavy day emotionally.

First, let’s remember that it’s just another day until you say it’s otherwise. This year, Wednesday makes it feel a little easier because it’s not a big weekend thing.

What are your expectations, or what were they when you were married or in a relationship?

Honestly it is mostly, if not entirely, women who have a problem with this day. Huge expectations if in a relationship and feeling lonely and unloved if you aren’t. Noticing all the others receiving flowers and you’re not for example. 

Do you notice the other women who are in relationships and don’t? Do you notice the women who receive flowers but don’t seem happy about it? Do you know anything about what is going on in their relationship because of those flowers or that dinner out?

Just because someone is doing all the right things for their partner that day doesn’t mean anything.

Let’s make this the year we stop. And if you are not able to entirely ignore the day which is hard I get it, then let’s at least plan to have a fabulous day/evening.

So here are some ideas which by the way can be incorporated any day of the year that you are feeling a bit left out or unloved or lonely like on a birthday, or anniversary or any day.

Plan to do something nice for yourself and be your own lover. 

If you say you are lonely then you are. If you make plans to love yourself that day instead then that’s who you are.

Some ideas for a single's Valentine's Day:

  1. If flowers are important to you then go and buy yourself some flowers. Or perhaps buy some seeds that you can plant for your spring/summer garden outside or on your balcony.
  2. Call your BFFs No one can make you feel better the way a very best friend can. Ask her for a little time on this day. She will remind you how loved you are.
  3. Make plans with other single friends
  4. Make plans for yourself like to go to a yoga class, the gym or maybe a Zumba class
  5. Plan a movie night with a horror flick if you like those or an action move. Avoid all romance movies obviously. Or maybe a really excellent documentary is your thing and you cna spend the evening watching the wonders of the world or the cycle of life of the Animal kingdom.
  6. You could go all out and plan a spa day/weekend either alone or with a friend
  7. Go on a date with your kids - I have had some of the best VDs doing this. And they will love it.
  8. Maybe doing something symbolic isn’t your thing - instead cozy up with a good book or even your journal like the Joy Journal. Maybe this day will be the perfect day to complete the vision pages in the journal or the Dreams and intention pages.
  9. Stay off social media all together. And that starts in the morning or even the night before. And the day after. Whatever you need to do to avoid all the braggy VD photos and declarations of love.
  10. Start making a list today of things you can do or choosing your favourite ideas off this list so you are well prepared and plans are in place. If you sense that this is going to be a difficult day then don’t leave it to chance. Choose what you want to do, make plans to that happens. You are not alone. So find someone to spend the day with if that’s what you want.

There you have it. Please let me know what you chose to do and share a picture on Instagram or in the Facebook group and tag me. Maybe next year the list of ideas for things you can do will be twice as long.

I love you big time.

Elisabeth 💖

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